Adoption · Linkup

What’s In a Name? Alot, for an Adopted Kid

Every second and third Thursday of the month, Erin Bohns hosts an adoption linkup. If you’re interested in taking a look, you may do directly to her blog or click on the badge in my sidebar.


Today’s topic is names.

There’s been a lot of publicity about adoptees having access to their original birth certificate.

This isn’t even a question my husband and I have considered because it was never a question. Of course they and will, and should, have access to their original birth certificate. 

Their original birth certificate is a part of their history, no matter how brief. To prohibit access to that is to invalidate that part of their lives and who they are.

I want my girls to .know as much about their family of origin as they wish to know.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying this will be easy for me.

In fact, both girls have been expressing a desire lately to meet Ruth, their biological mother. Even though their memories of her are imagined, there is still a drop of insecurity in their words.

They know they were adopted because Ruth wasn’t ready to be a mother; however, they don’t know the reasons Ruth couldn’t be their mother.

But I digress…

Their names are a lovely combination of the biological origins (their first names) and adopted origins (their last names). 

So when they inquire about their names, as I think most kids do, I can share that their names have both a biological history and an adoptive history.

And when it’s time to show them their birth certificates, they will know the biological origins behind their names.

It will show them the beautiful knitting together of two families in both name and life.

6 thoughts on “What’s In a Name? Alot, for an Adopted Kid

  1. I enjoyed reading about your decision. I wrote this week how my son chose to keep his name, but he also has a name that we gave him. I wanted him to know that he is part of our family.


  2. How fortunate that you have that birth certificate and link to biological family! 🙂 My youngest 3 kids are from China, where we have no information about birth family at all.

    Also, you have a typo up at the top of your post. “A lot” is 2 words.


  3. I think its great that you are willing to share with them about their birth families even though it can be hard. Way to go! Also, thanks for telling my about the technical issue with my blogs post. Now I can fix it.


  4. I really like this. Made me think of how we chose your name and Kevin’s. How I was named–my grandmother and the nurse who took care of me as an infant. Dad’s–generations of Antonio S. The girls will gain great insight about who they are by reading your blogs when they are older.


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