Adoption · Musings and Personal

Why I Chose Adoption

One of May’s topics from Erin Bohn’s Adoption Talk Link-up was Why did you choose adoption? I went with her other topic, What’s the Best Advice You’ve ever Gotten, but today I’m going to address why my husband and I chose to adopt.



Many people adopt because they’re unable to have their own biological children; however, that was not the case for my husband and I. Our hearts broke knowing there are children in the foster care system who age out of the system without knowing the permanency of family.

Shenandoah Chefalo talks about this in her memoir, Garbage Bag Suitcase.

Andrew and I wished to provide a home for a child (or two, as it so happened) in the system.

Admittedly, it was partly selfish, too. I hated being pregnant. I had a rare condition called cholestasis, and a very difficult delivery (almost 48  hours of labor, four hours of pushing), and had no desire to go through that EVER again.

People say you forget all about the pain and discomfort after it’s over.

I didn’t.

In my defense, though, we made this choice before I got pregnant.

As cheesy as it sounds, I always wanted to make a difference in the world. It was the motivation behind every career I dreamed of as a child: nun, psychologist, occupational therapist.

And now, writer.

Many adoptees get upset because they don’t want to be viewed as a charity case. I don’t look at my daughters, or any other adopted person, as a charity case.

I look at it as being practical. Why would I go through the hell of pregnancy, labor and delivery again when there are children in the foster care system who need homes?

And that why I chose adoption.

2 thoughts on “Why I Chose Adoption

  1. Hi Lynn, although I’m only 20, I’ve decided to adopt as well 🙂 I’ve told some that I do not want children of my own and they started berating me. It’s just not in my heart to be overly maternal and motherly. Despite that, I’ve seen children in orphanages deprived of the love that a family can give them. Although I’m not what people would call “motherly”, I’d love to change their world. I want them to have a chance to experience life with a family, to go to school, graduate from university, and make a mark for themselves, and it is hard for them to do so without leaving the orphanage(s), so I think that by adopting, at least I can give some of them a chance to excel. I would like to read more about your experiences as a foster-adopt mum so that I can learn more in preparation for the future. Have a good day! 🙂

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! My experience has been very challenging but also very rewarding. I hope you will check out my blog and let me know if you have any questions. Oh, and by the time I was 20, I knew I wanted to adopt also. 🙂

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